We see it in many places – on church signs, billboards, tee shirts, and bumper stickers: “God loves you. No exceptions.” It’s a good message, and one which we desperately need to hear. It’s an important message; it’s important enough that God sent his son to deliver the message (I John 4:9). We announce it to the world, and that is very good. However, it is more than an announcement, and sometimes we fail to see, or to communicate, the rest of the message.

An illustration can help us understand the full message. Remember a time when you were dating someone. You had been dating for a while and your feelings had grown deeper. A time comes when you want to utter those three little words. With warmth, and perhaps a bit of trepidation, you say, “I love you.” Many of us are nervous the first time we speak of our love in a relationship. We’re nervous because we’re doing more than acknowledging our feelings. What we are actually saying is, “I love you. Do you love me, too? Will we have a relationship and share our lives with each other?
Friends, when God says, “I love you,” God is also asking us to love him as well, and to have a relationship and share our lives with him. It isn’t just a declaration; it’s also an invitation. Being loved is great, but a love relationship cannot be one-sided. We need to respond to God’s love by loving God. Our immediate response is, “Of course, I love God! Who wouldn’t?” But do we actually love God? Do our actions demonstrate the love of God in our lives?
Think of the things one does when one loves someone. Two people in love spend time together; they talk with each other. Sometimes they just gaze into each other’s eyes. They assist each other in meeting the needs of life. They look out for each other.
God does this in his relationship with us. Who can deny that God meets our needs? God showers us with gifts. In fact, everything we have was given to us by God. God seeks us, primarily by sending his son to spread the good news (John 3:16), but also by prompting us in a small voice or through the words of others. If we think that God has not been seeking us or trying to speak with us, then the problem is that we haven’t been paying attention. Sometimes in a relationship, a person fails to pay sufficient attention to the partner. In a human relationship, this can lead to a breakup, or in a marriage, to divorce. In our relationship with God, however, it leads to God trying again to build the relationship by continuing to seek us and to get our attention. The Hebrew prophets, particularly Hosea, often speak of God’s relentless attempts to have a relationship with us.
I think that we are all in a relationship with God. It may be a good relationship, or it may be a failing one. How do we improve the relationship? What does our love of God require of us? Or, thinking of it another way, what actions spring from our love of God? What shows that we love God?
Spending time with God is one part of the relationship. This takes effort, as we all have pressures on our lives and demands on our time. One of the collects in Morning Prayer addresses this problem: Heavenly Father, in you we live and move and have our being: We humbly pray you so to guide and govern us by your Holy Spirit, that in all the cares and occupations of our life we may not forget you, but may remember that we are ever walking in your sight; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen. (BCP, p.100) This is an excellent morning prayer as it moves us in the direction of our God.
What shall we do during our days to demonstrate our love for God? We can spend 15 or 20 minutes a day saying Morning or Evening Prayer (Book of Common Prayer, pp. 74 ff). How about spending one or two hours a week in Bible study, alone or in a group, to learn more about God’s recorded words to his people? We can gather with our brothers and sisters for Sunday worship each week. We can’t love God without loving our brothers and sisters (I John 4:21) – we should pray each day for those in need. We can give 10% of our income to support the church and people who are less fortunate than we. We can spend time in volunteer activities assisting brothers and sisters in need. We can actively engage with scripture seeking to hear what God is saying. We can sit quietly and listen for God’s voice. We can thank God for the food we eat, the clothes we wear, the cars we drive, the houses in which we live. We can speak words of encouragement to others and strive to build up others instead of tearing them down. We can tell others of the good news that Jesus came to save us, and that salvation is free and plentiful. We should serve as witnesses to God’s good work in our lives and in the world. We show our love for God by living godly lives.
These things are signs of our love for God. They have been recognized for many centuries as essential outcomes of love. The books of Moses, particularly Deuteronomy, the teachings of the prophets, the gospels, and the epistles discuss these as needful activities. If we fail in these areas, then we need to scrutinize our relationship with God and ask whether we are properly responding to the announcement of God’s love. All relationships entail obligations; a one-sided relationship isn’t actually a relationship at all – it’s exploitation.God wants to have a serious, mature, loving relationship with each of us, and that requires that we respond appropriately to God’s invitation. Jesus told the apostles, “If you love me, you will keep my commandments” (John 14:15). Loving God flows into doing God’s will and following God’s directives. And, though it may seem odd, following God’s commandments will increase our love for God. God’s directives are not given to “keep us in line” but rather to help us grow and mature.
When you read, “God loves you. No exceptions,” understand the full message. Acknowledge it not only as an announcement but as an invitation. Respond to the invitation. Love God. Love your brothers and sisters, and friends and enemies, and act accordingly.
May God help us as we strive to show God’s love to the world.
